Most of the books and articles on the relationship between men and women are written by women. And we – men – have our own ideas about what we like or dislike. In addition, not every male representative is ready to tell his soul mate directly that he is pissed off about her. Psychologists say which women’s traits are most unacceptable for men.
1. When a wife or girlfriend compares her man to someone
And it doesn’t matter who we are talking about – her father, ex-boyfriend, husband of our friend, or simply that our life partner does not correspond to a certain ideal … You say he is not so good in comparison with someone in sex? Well, he is unlikely to improve. Most likely, he will take it as a personal insult. He’ll believe that you are devaluing him and, if this happens several times, he may even leave you. Most likely, he’ll go to another woman who will accept him as he is.
2. Breaking personal boundaries
Although even other psychologists say that if you want a relationship with a partner, you should feel like “we”, and not as separate “me and you”, in reality it will never be possible to completely merge into him. Just because he is a man and you are a woman.
A significant part of divorce and breakup also occurs due to the fact that one of the partners does not like the habits of the other. A person puts slippers in the wrong place, puts a toothbrush in the wrong place, does not lift or lift the lid in the lavatory, etc. Sometimes one of the partners (usually a woman) invades the personal space of the second person to establish her own order there.
Let’s say he has an “artistic mess” on his table, but after you’ve put “order” there, he cannot find anything.
Or you demand that a man go shopping with you, buh he just cannot stand it.
Or you try to tell him what clothes to wear and where to work.
Or you take him into the company of your friends, where he does not fit at all …
In a word, you make him do what is unnecessary, uninteresting and does not bring joy. Why does he need such an “unhappy” relationship?
3. When a woman argues with a man
If a woman argues with a man, he begins to perceive her not as a partner, but as a competitor. And any male strives for victory. It doesn’t matter what topic the discussion is on, but if you put forward your arguments against it, then be prepared for the fact that you will be “attacked”. You may hear in your address many “flattering” words – for example, that you are stupid and incompetent in this matter. And if such “fights” occur frequently, then one of you two may not want such relationship.
4. Spontaneous behavior
Men are prone to rationalism and planning. And if you suddenly abandon the planned trip, or vice versa, declare that you want to go somewhere right now, or you invite a friend into the house without warning him, this can cause your partner’s real stress. By the way, for the same reason, men sometimes do not understand a woman’s hints when she loves a beautiful ring or fur coat in a shop window. After all, she did not tell them in advance that she wanted this thing, how could he occur to buy it?
Therefore, it is recommended to report on your plans and desires in advance. Then your partner will have time to prepare for the situation, at least mentally.
5. Jealousy
Many women are openly jealous of their partners. They can be unpleasant if a man looks at another woman. There are also such ladies who literally control every step of a man. They constantly check his phone and social networks for correspondence with strangers. Those whose paranoia is completely off scale can arrange the most real surveillance, some even hire detectives for this. There are also those who collect information through friends, co-workers, trying to find out if their spouse or boyfriend is cheating on them.
To object and prove something in such a situation is completely useless. In most cases, a man simply distances himself from a woman who accuses him of non-existent betrayal.
However, an adequate man is unlikely to endure constant control or scandals, especially without a reason. Most likely, sooner or later he will simply slam the door and leave- in search of a more complaisant companion.
The secret of a relationship is simple: love each other and don’t do that which is unpleasant for your partner!
